Monday, October 26, 2015

A Birthday Surprise

Tracy Black wrote: I had a sign from my special needs brother Andrew who had passed away. I was really distraught as I went to bed one night and cried. I asked for him to let me know he was okay. That night, I had an amazing dream. He came to me. All I could see was a hand. He wanted me to hold it and he took me somewhere warm and peaceful that was full of beautiful flowers and birds singing. I felt really happy and although I couldn't see him, I knew it was my brother. This was on my birthday! I felt a big relief and thanked him for the experience.

A Little Birdie Told Me

Darlene Singleton from Crete, Illinois wrote: My Dad (Daniel Bub) passed away April 24, 2014. It was my mom's birthday July 1, 2014. My brother, sister-in-law, niece and her fiance, and my husband all went out for dinner. Afterwards, we went back to my house for dessert. We were walking into the house and there sat a cardinal. I knew it was a sign from Dad. I smiled and then cried.

Note from me: It is common for loved ones to send signs on a birthday--and I am so glad that Darlene and her whole family got one on her mother's birthday!

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Forever His Wife

Tina Nilsen from Phoenix, Arizona wrote: On December 5, 2012, I lost the love of my life, my husband, Alan to cancer. It happened in only 2 months, from finding out that he had it to his death. I was totally devastated! We had been married for 33 years and he was (still is) my life. Afterwards, I would cry myself to sleep begging him to wait for me, not to take the journey without me. Then one morning I woke up and picked up his urn (I always carry him to my bedside.) I walked down the hallway and started to place the urn on his memorial table. As I did that, my computer that was across the room came on by itself. When it comes on it has my name Tina and then the place to type my password. Shocked, I looked at his picture and said "Baby, I know that was you." Then I walked past the TV and turned it on and kept walking to the kitchen. As I turned to walk away from the TV the song "I Will Wait for You " was playing!!! Mind you, the TV was on a news channel! I got so excited!!! I ran to his memorial table and told him THANK YOU!!! HE SAID, "TINA, I WILL WAIT FOR YOU " !!!! I was so happy and excited!! He continues to give me and our grown sons signs all the time now! He knows that I need his signs to keep going. Forever my Life, Forever his Wife 

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You Are Always in My Heart

April Russell wrote: I got a sign from my mom last week. Her name is Nancy Jarvis. My heart that you see on the red bag was hanging on top of the bi-fold mirror. It had been there a long time. Last week I was leaving my bedroom and I heard something fall but didn't see anything. The next morning when I woke up, I looked at the floor where the red bag is and found the heart perfect on my mother's red bag that you see in the pic. There is no way that heart would have landed there if it it's a heavy heart. If it fell, it would of landed on my dresser or floor. This was definitely a sign from my mom telling me she loves me.

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A Dream Comes True

Roberta Kendall wrote: It was a few years after my mom (Millie Kendall) had passed. I was stressed and worried about my son.....He was very upset as he wasn't able to find work. I went to bed praying for him and asked God to please help him find employment......I never dreamt about my ma, but that night I did. In the dream, I was out in my huge backyard and suddenly my mom appeared, walked past me calmly and in her way that she had said, "He's going to be alright, Roberta" and she was gone........It gave me such peace. Later that day, I had forgotten about the dream with everyday goings on, until my son came home and was overjoyed with the news that he had found a job! I'll never forget that. It makes me feel blessed and loved every time I think of it. I miss her every day--her laugh, advice, prayers, and love. She was the best mom and was a preacher's wife for over 50 years.

The picture is of Millie Kendall holding Roberta when she was a baby.

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Sunday, October 25, 2015

Grieving Alone

     Certainly, no one's experience with grief is identical.  However, if someone is going through a loss and others are mourning the same loss, too, there is a comfort in being able to share stories and experiences, which transpired with their deceased loved one.  In my years of experience with this topic, I have discovered something, which is particularly difficult.   That is when someone has lost a child (young or grown)  and is not with the parent of that child.  As a result, it is as if one spouse or partner is in mourning, while the other is not.  That, in and of itself, often makes it difficult to discuss one's feelings openly, or at least for any great length of time if the other person wants the parent "to move on."

     So, a parent in this situation often has to "suffer in silence" even in the most private surroundings and the dinner table, during family gatherings, and more.  I believe that a person who is experiencing such a journey can find comfort in talking to others who are going through the grief process, whether it's in person or online.  There has to be an outlet for those feelings.  One cannot be "cut-off" from their innermost emotions at such a crucial time in his or her life.

     I think that in such a circumstance, it is also helpful to keep a journal about feelings, as well as signs that have been received.  Although private, it still allows the person to express personal thoughts.  And professional counseling should never be underestimated, whether it is private or in a group setting.

     I believe that the one thing that most people desire during the grief process (in addition to wanting their loved ones back) is to have their feelings validated.  Finding those avenues in a supportive environment can be invaluable.  I would appreciate your feedback about this topic, whether you leave a comment here or on my Facebook page, Angels at My Door, especially if this is something that you have been grappling with personally in one way or another.

Cindy Adkins

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Saturday, October 24, 2015

Why Signs are So Comforting

     If you have lost a loved one and received a sign from that person, then you know first-hand what a comfort it is to get a special message from heaven.  I have had many people tell me that they have gotten a sign, but were even afraid to tell family members for fear that they would not understand.

     Having spoken to hundreds of people from all over the world regarding signs, my feeling is that when you get one, it is important to write it down and/or take a picture of it.  Two years ago, I was watching a movie and at the end of it, the credits came on.  I rarely watch movie credits, a real "no-no" for someone who was raised within an earshot of the movie studios in southern California.  But that day, I decided to keep them rolling.  A few seconds later, a name came across the screen and it was the first and last name of my deceased father!  That was a sign I never expected.

     Now, I am not one to think that "everything" is a sign.  In other words, just because a butterfly goes past if I am standing in the yard, I do not assume it is a message for me.  It has been my experience that most signs are quite specific.  However, they can come in ways that one might never expect.  I feel that receiving a sign is a true blessing.  I make sure to write it down whenever I receive one.  I would suggest that you do, also.

     Even though our loved ones have passed on, that does not mean that they cannot find a way to reach us.  Signs are only one manner in which they can communicate.  Another way is through dreams, although we might not remember all of them.

     If you have lost a loved one and have not received a sign, that does not mean that the person is not around you.  It is possible that you were sent a sign, but did not recognize it at the time.  I find that when someone is not looking for a sign, that is when they seem to happen!

     As I was writing this specific post, a small white feather floated down and landed on my computer.  My feeling is that because of the timing of it, this post could be instrumental in helping someone to recognize messages from heaven when they happen.  I wish you many signs and hope that your loved ones send them.

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Cindy Adkins

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Thursday, October 22, 2015


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Wednesday, October 7, 2015

An Open Letter to Grievers

     For those of you who are going through the grief process, my sincere condolences.  This is a very difficult process and the more support you have from family, friends, counselors, clergy, and even online resources, the better.  Yes, this is a time to reach out to others.

     You are the only person who knows fully what you are going through...Others may mean well, but don't let them "rush" you through the process.  If you need professional help, by all means, get it.

     Besides the pain of the loss itself, I believe that one of the most difficult parts about going through the grief journey is explaining to others what it feels like....That is because for each person it is different.  It is definitely a time when you want someone to validate your feelings.  Unfortunately, right after the funeral, most people go back to their regular lives and expect others (including you) to, also.  But grief does not work like that.  It has its own terms and its own timetable.

     During this time, be good to yourself.  Don't let anyone make you apologize for the hurt you are feeling.  Not everyone understands how you feel.

     I have often heard from others that during the process of grief, friends can change.  It is usually because some individuals don't want to hear about "the loss" anymore.  But it can also be a time when new people emerge that you can share your feelings with.

     I hope that each day brings you more and more healing.

Cindy Adkins

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