Grieving Alone

     Certainly, no one's experience with grief is identical.  However, if someone is going through a loss and others are mourning the same loss, too, there is a comfort in being able to share stories and experiences, which transpired with their deceased loved one.  In my years of experience with this topic, I have discovered something, which is particularly difficult.   That is when someone has lost a child (young or grown)  and is not with the parent of that child.  As a result, it is as if one spouse or partner is in mourning, while the other is not.  That, in and of itself, often makes it difficult to discuss one's feelings openly, or at least for any great length of time if the other person wants the parent "to move on."

     So, a parent in this situation often has to "suffer in silence" even in the most private surroundings and circumstances...at the dinner table, during family gatherings, and more.  I believe that a person who is experiencing such a journey can find comfort in talking to others who are going through the grief process, whether it's in person or online.  There has to be an outlet for those feelings.  One cannot be "cut-off" from their innermost emotions at such a crucial time in his or her life.

     I think that in such a circumstance, it is also helpful to keep a journal about feelings, as well as signs that have been received.  Although private, it still allows the person to express personal thoughts.  And professional counseling should never be underestimated, whether it is private or in a group setting.

     I believe that the one thing that most people desire during the grief process (in addition to wanting their loved ones back) is to have their feelings validated.  Finding those avenues in a supportive environment can be invaluable.  I would appreciate your feedback about this topic, whether you leave a comment here or on my Facebook page, Angels at My Door, especially if this is something that you have been grappling with personally in one way or another.

Blessings,
Cindy Adkins

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Why Signs are So Comforting

     If you have lost a loved one and received a sign from that person, then you know first-hand what a comfort it is to get a special message from heaven.  I have had many people tell me that they have gotten a sign, but were even afraid to tell family members for fear that they would not understand.

     Having spoken to hundreds of people from all over the world regarding signs, my feeling is that when you get one, it is important to write it down and/or take a picture of it.  Two years ago, I was watching a movie and at the end of it, the credits came on.  I rarely watch movie credits, a real "no-no" for someone who was raised within an earshot of the movie studios in southern California.  But that day, I decided to keep them rolling.  A few seconds later, a name came across the screen and it was the first and last name of my deceased father!  That was a sign I never expected.

     Now, I am not one to think that "everything" is a sign.  In other words, just because a butterfly goes past if I am standing in the yard, I do not assume it is a message for me.  It has been my experience that most signs are quite specific.  However, they can come in ways that one might never expect.  I feel that receiving a sign is a true blessing.  I make sure to write it down whenever I receive one.  I would suggest that you do, also.

     Even though our loved ones have passed on, that does not mean that they cannot find a way to reach us.  Signs are only one manner in which they can communicate.  Another way is through dreams, although we might not remember all of them.

     If you have lost a loved one and have not received a sign, that does not mean that the person is not around you.  It is possible that you were sent a sign, but did not recognize it at the time.  I find that when someone is not looking for a sign, that is when they seem to happen!

     As I was writing this specific post, a small white feather floated down and landed on my computer.  My feeling is that because of the timing of it, this post could be instrumental in helping someone to recognize messages from heaven when they happen.  I wish you many signs and hope that your loved ones send them.

If you would like to read more about signs, I have a free ebook entitled Love You Forever:  Signs from Loved Ones in Heaven.  If you click this link, it will take you to it:  http://www.angelsatmydoor.com/p/free-ebooks.html

Blessings,
Cindy Adkins

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