A Dream Comes True

Roberta Kendall wrote: It was a few years after my mom (Millie Kendall) had passed. I was stressed and worried about my son.....He was very upset as he wasn't able to find work. I went to bed praying for him and asked God to please help him find employment......I never dreamt about my ma, but that night I did. In the dream, I was out in my huge backyard and suddenly my mom appeared, walked past me calmly and in her way that she had said, "He's going to be alright, Roberta" and she was gone........It gave me such peace. Later that day, I had forgotten about the dream with everyday goings on, until my son came home and was overjoyed with the news that he had found a job! I'll never forget that. It makes me feel blessed and loved every time I think of it. I miss her every day--her laugh, advice, prayers, and love. She was the best mom and was a preacher's wife for over 50 years.

The picture is of Millie Kendall holding Roberta when she was a baby.

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Grieving Alone

     Certainly, no one's experience with grief is identical.  However, if someone is going through a loss and others are mourning the same loss, too, there is a comfort in being able to share stories and experiences, which transpired with their deceased loved one.  In my years of experience with this topic, I have discovered something, which is particularly difficult.   That is when someone has lost a child (young or grown)  and is not with the parent of that child.  As a result, it is as if one spouse or partner is in mourning, while the other is not.  That, in and of itself, often makes it difficult to discuss one's feelings openly, or at least for any great length of time if the other person wants the parent "to move on."

     So, a parent in this situation often has to "suffer in silence" even in the most private surroundings and circumstances...at the dinner table, during family gatherings, and more.  I believe that a person who is experiencing such a journey can find comfort in talking to others who are going through the grief process, whether it's in person or online.  There has to be an outlet for those feelings.  One cannot be "cut-off" from their innermost emotions at such a crucial time in his or her life.

     I think that in such a circumstance, it is also helpful to keep a journal about feelings, as well as signs that have been received.  Although private, it still allows the person to express personal thoughts.  And professional counseling should never be underestimated, whether it is private or in a group setting.

     I believe that the one thing that most people desire during the grief process (in addition to wanting their loved ones back) is to have their feelings validated.  Finding those avenues in a supportive environment can be invaluable.  I would appreciate your feedback about this topic, whether you leave a comment here or on my Facebook page, Angels at My Door, especially if this is something that you have been grappling with personally in one way or another.

Blessings,
Cindy Adkins

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Why Signs are So Comforting

     If you have lost a loved one and received a sign from that person, then you know first-hand what a comfort it is to get a special message from heaven.  I have had many people tell me that they have gotten a sign, but were even afraid to tell family members for fear that they would not understand.

     Having spoken to hundreds of people from all over the world regarding signs, my feeling is that when you get one, it is important to write it down and/or take a picture of it.  Two years ago, I was watching a movie and at the end of it, the credits came on.  I rarely watch movie credits, a real "no-no" for someone who was raised within an earshot of the movie studios in southern California.  But that day, I decided to keep them rolling.  A few seconds later, a name came across the screen and it was the first and last name of my deceased father!  That was a sign I never expected.

     Now, I am not one to think that "everything" is a sign.  In other words, just because a butterfly goes past if I am standing in the yard, I do not assume it is a message for me.  It has been my experience that most signs are quite specific.  However, they can come in ways that one might never expect.  I feel that receiving a sign is a true blessing.  I make sure to write it down whenever I receive one.  I would suggest that you do, also.

     Even though our loved ones have passed on, that does not mean that they cannot find a way to reach us.  Signs are only one manner in which they can communicate.  Another way is through dreams, although we might not remember all of them.

     If you have lost a loved one and have not received a sign, that does not mean that the person is not around you.  It is possible that you were sent a sign, but did not recognize it at the time.  I find that when someone is not looking for a sign, that is when they seem to happen!

     As I was writing this specific post, a small white feather floated down and landed on my computer.  My feeling is that because of the timing of it, this post could be instrumental in helping someone to recognize messages from heaven when they happen.  I wish you many signs and hope that your loved ones send them.

If you would like to read more about signs, I have a free ebook entitled Love You Forever:  Signs from Loved Ones in Heaven.  If you click this link, it will take you to it:  http://www.angelsatmydoor.com/p/free-ebooks.html

Blessings,
Cindy Adkins

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Your Inalienable Right to Grieve

As if losing someone you love isn’t bad enough, family and friends can actually contribute to making the grief process even worse.  How?  By asking, “Aren’t you done yet?”  By that they mean, “Aren’t you done crying or talking about your loved one?”  “Aren’t you ready to come out and have some fun?”  The list goes on and on.

What people don’t realize is that grief takes time—your time—not theirs—and they need to understand it.  But they probably won’t.  So, what should you do?  There are a number of choices.  One is to let them know kindly (or otherwise) that it’s none of their business.  However, if someone is really saying it out of true concern, then you may want to consider counseling.  Just remember—learn to take care of yourself during this time and if you need the help of a professional, by all means, get it.

There is another thing that could happen during the grief process.  You may become more spiritually aware.  You may meet new people who truly understand you and try to help during this time.  You might learn that by taking “baby steps,” each day you are moving toward a new perspective and allowing healing to take place.

Loving blessings to you,

Cindy Adkins

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Your Angel's Trying to Reach You!

     So many people ask me if their loved one who has passed on is trying to reach them.  Perhaps they have gotten a sign or a gnawing feeling that won't go away.  What I always tell someone who asks such a question is, "If you feel like your angel is trying to reach you, chances are that is the case!"  The reasons may vary from just wanting to say "hello" to bringing you comfort on a day that is difficult.

     Signs that we get are each different and can range from a feather softly falling down in front of us to seeing our loved one's name on the credits of a television show (both of which have happened to me.)  When someone has the feeling that their loved one is near, it is my feeling that it's important to pay attention.

     Yes, your special angel could definitely be trying to reach you.  We often think of heaven as a place that is so far away.  I think of it as a parallel dimension in which our loved ones can still communicate with us.  So, if you feel like your angel is giving you a "shout out" from paradise, embrace the moment and say "thank you" to the person in spirit for making him/herself known.

     Loving blessings to you,
     Cindy

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National Angels at My Door Day

National Angels at My Door Day is celebrated each year on August 27th, the first year being 2015.  The day has been recorded in the International Date Registry.  

This day was founded by author Cindy Adkins of Louisiana.  The purpose of the day is commemorate loved ones who have passed on and to reflect on what they mean to us.  For those who are going through the grief process, it is a day to allow healing to take place.  "Having had this blog, as well as my Facebook page, Angels at My Door, it became increasingly clear to me that there is a great need for a day of reflection, as well as a 'celebration of life' honoring those who have passed on," said Adkins.

A single white rose is the symbol of the day as white roses represent everlasting love--love that endures beyond the grave.

In commemoration of this day, participants are asked to light a candle for their deceased loved one at home and to post a picture of them on whichever social media sites they participate in, i.e. Facebook, Instagram, etc.  It is not a federally recognized holiday.

Certificate from MyDayRegistry.com signifying that this day has been recorded.  Please click to view larger.

Blessings to You

I believe that random acts of kindness are very important.  And so, I made this virtual postcard to send blessings your way.  If you have been going through a loss or are dealing with something else that is difficult, I ask for you to be lifted up.  May God bless you.  Sincerely, Cindy Adkins

New Thanksgiving Facebook Cover

If you would like to use this Thanksgiving cover for your Facebook page that I designed, simply click on it to enlarge. Right-click on the image to save it to your desktop.  Upload it to your Facebook page from there.

Free Facebook Banners!

Just click on the one you want and it will enlarge. When you see the LARGE image, "right click" on it and save it to your desktop. Then insert it onto your FB page. If you would like to join my Facebook page, Angels at My Door, just click HERE.  If you would like to leave a donation, the "donate" button is on the sidebar.  It is not required!

Dragonfly Facebook Header

This is my newest Facebook banner design and if you'd like one, just click on the image, (it will be the correct size) save it to your desktop, and then upload it to Facebook. XO Cindy